I took a super early call from a friend who wanted to talk to me of something they've been going through with someone they trusted.
We've all been there - where we have trusted or let someone in and they suddenly turn from being what appeared to be a loving, encouraging ally.. to suddenly (any chance they can) poking holes in any moment of joy we have "that is not centered around theirs" and it's shocking each and every time when someone unexpected throws us shade - any for of shade - it doesn't matter the type - SHADE is SHADE!.
It shocks especially because on the surface (+ publicly) they look + read very well... but do something "amazing" big or small amazing - and then they show the dark, petty, evil, discontent they've been brewing underneath ---> whenever situations are isolated and behind the scenes. And it can be swift.... oh gosh I had someone do this to me between November and the End of December (a matter of 1 month and they swiftly showed their ugly underneath) - and if I had to say what the shade came for ha! Well let me just say it was some really dumb shit, quite petty and laughable. But I was glad it unnerved them, because in that process I really got to know them,
It is not in the smiles - but it is in this other stuff that we see character. *** People like this are ugly - when you're ugly on the inside (no matter how good looking) you will end up being an ugly person all round.
Yes people do make mistakes - and mistakes or misunderstandings can always be worked through and forgiven. However throwing shade is usually a very deliberate and very purposeful act. This is another kind of beast - it's an action (or refusal to act where proper protocol is necessary) which loudly announces an unkind spirit.
I gave my friend the same advice I give myself and that is to always love yourself enough to => maintain your integrity and your emotional health, carefully detach + WALK AWAY ... RUN!
Please be good to yourself.
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