YES, there IS an international women's day and as I reflect on this reality, because of a not long enough and most bizarre experience - at the end of my am meditation I caught myself thinking, and decided to write about it…instead of adding to the normative blast of really cute and frilly posters on social media.
Okay, I am mostly wondering whether the “International Women’s Day” concept.. movement actually encourages, motivates or inspires all women to truly lean in, to uplift and to give each other their support? I’m always hopeful that it does, but I am guessing “while well intention” that it does not motivate all.
I am deafeningly curious especially because the concept - usually triggers me to praying.. followed by feelings of mercy.. Then thank goodness, always followed by an enormous feeling of gratitude for those really great super women in my life, whom I hold very very dear.
I usual pray about the little shady things women do to each other day after day …which often keeps them back, derailed and lagging behind their male counterparts within 1 too many scenarios/exchanges.
I’m sure you know some of what I speak of here, but how about some examples:
- the little jabs, the ignoring of their friend’s Ps - “pleasures, posts ..process” :o) … the petty and unkind dousing of each other's steam, ..the steam rolling, the jealousy, the envy, the shade, the side eye, the pretending to help while behind the scenes holding a sour, bitter, grudge-filled tone, a less than helpful heart and the pretty clear "bad-vibe" attitude.
- the sort of woman who once questioned, triggered or caught off guard - blurts out some awfully telling and quite negative hidden thoughts - one such example “hey I'm not responsible for another person’s acts” - displaying a complete detachment from any thought/act in which they could be seen and reflected as giving a real show of support - as they willfully turn a blind eye [while having pertinent information I might add] in a number of countless situations…where they could have easily and effortlessly helped OR helped to inform/contain.
Ahh but instead - this sort of woman presents a sour, negative attitude which shows them up similar to the face of a Judas-in-the-midst. And as soon as they’re questioned or called out on their thought spill and on their act - they quickly claim clueless - turning things around 360deg, being insulted and pissed at you for braving to look at and address their process and oh yes, “how dare you look to question them”… Ha ha ha do you know of anyone like this? I bet you do… sadly, we all do.
Women who whether by pure organic detachment/laziness, lack of good intention or vision - and may I say they do this quite proudly - simply avoid being helpful ..all while playing/pretending to be a friend, when in evidence [if one cares to look closely] they can be caught actually refusing to contribute.
- - - And with the sort of pride that would ordinarily render any normal thinking “progressive” person with some intense shame.
Women who are unable to view other women's success, challenges or stride "at anything” - in a communal context or as neighboring to their own.
I mean really, when one woman wins we all win... and one woman winning gains more power in strides to be able to then lift up another ...others.
Or okay how about example #2:
how about the women who is offered some value in your eyes, immediately pretending they're in your court ... only to give sudden snarl and growl the minute any of your updates has to do with your joy moment or to do with (not theirs) but your own process and your own stride..?
- this type of woman then being shocked and actually having the gall to display that shock, that you would naturally eventually mute their updates after they have shown you their hide (ha ha ha yes hide - as in animal skin treated for human use).
Now exactly why would anyone who gives you messaging of some assignment of lesser value in their world/time actually demand from you more and constant value? “that’s rhetorical” - obviously that is a case of either a mental health issue or of insanity.
Anyhow you peacefully & lovingly walk away from them and their world - very slowly, head hung heavy with grief at the loss of what you believed was a friend, …surely disappointed, but still with full acceptance and still very grateful for them and quite important - grateful for the reveal - A reveal which gave you insight and gave you perhaps the greatest secret on earth about them - that they are easily triggered to states of jealousy, that they are not as generous of spirit as they attempt to portrait publicly, that they are disingenuous and that they can be inconsistent, unstable and also quite petty.
Ha ha ha a shocking reveal sure and you slowly walk away then eventually - of course - you mute their world where necessary, until one additional encounter reveals more of the same and then eventually you RUN!
In the way that one slowly pulls a hand back out of a lions mouth ... v-e-r-y slowly and once it reaches the finger tips.. then a quick dash... yep just like that :).
These are just 2 examples of the many types of women who are out there - even during International women's day they are still present and real - and I am perhaps making an unusual move - which goes against the grain - to speak of it.. instead of writing or re-posting a cute, fluffy, frilly poster of women's day. - but I figure why not also have some meaningful fun and write a little of the unspoken stuff [stuff as in rubbish] ..that often gets in the way --- which stunts growth, true progress and advancement - especially in the ever popular comparison to males - in our global gender race.
And sure perhaps I am likely to risk being thrown ass up out of “the women's club” .. but I’ll take the risk, for I feel it’s important to always keep an eye [or 2] :o) toward progress, and we cannot fully + honestly do that, whenever we close one eye [or 2 ] to any element of regress. BUT we can work on this, oh YES we can!
So I usually pray in the midst of the beautiful celebrating that women stand (not in fake) but in their true + deserving power and that they lean in. Be value, always See value and always Add value - - - together we can do this, We are worthy!
I pray that women lose the shade, the side eye, the public acts while doing the behind-the-scenes hands-off-ish dagger in the backs. That they lose the petty behaviors, that women truly support all others - in ways that are unquestionably clear. That women connect with the word “ally” and implement thoughts, attitudes and behaviors which resembles such.
Many women [many not all] …are busy speaking as if they are always unfairly falling behind men in the great marathon of life… but very little is spoken of the way women actually (consciously and unconsciously) seek to derail and reduce each other … sometimes they fail in doing so and thank goodness for that.
- YES there is a whole lot to be said of gender inequality - in perhaps another piece of writing for another day. For today I am specifically focusing this bit of writing on "Women" ... since it is after-all -Women’s day- so let's go in. All the way in.
I will continue to pray and even while I do, I will also continue to lead by example, as I do daily by consistently showing up with a helpful attitude, giving support in any way that I can, giving love, encouragement and every measure of it that clearly says “Hello other woman, I am proud of you, I fully support you and I am in your court”.
I will continue to acknowledge the women in my life who are also true leaders at this, who are loving, kind, intensely intentional, purpose driven and extensively special. Women I have come to know, cherish, admire and adore …who make me in each and every day smile with pride to know them and great pride to be able to call them mother, family, student, true friend or ally.
These women surround me with a love and support that warms and cushions my soul on any tough [or easy] day - I am inspired and uplifted by them and I am encouraged to know by any glance at their behaviors, that I am not alone …and that powerful, sincere women like myself do exist, shining with a quiet grace amidst any of the occasional [spirit-fleeting], disingenuous sour grains.
On women’s day [and everyday] I am truly thankful for these types of secured, powerful, magical women, and at the end of my meditation, at the end of my prayers - I end on sweet notes of gratitude for those kind, sincere, graceful women in my life… Grace is internal and no degree of coaching can ever create it.
It takes a true, stable and constant inner power to give, to give consistently AND to give with a whole heart.
The special women in my life that I speak of know who they are - and I know I thank you pretty often but here again from the bottom of my warm and loving heart - I thank you!!!
May we all continue to find AND KEEP our inner power and maintain the capacity, grace, kindness and strength to always extend wherever we can - while practicing mindfulness and non-harming behaviors [toward self & others].
May we always with sincerity and with a huge heart - not retract but with kind thoughts, good vibes and great intent - may we always lean in!
Happy International Women's (day) ...decade.
Pose of the Month: MARCH = Adho Mukha Svanasana (Downward Facing Dog). . .
Ha ha ha I kept sketching and for some reason though I am not 💯% on this one I'm rolling with it and loving it as it is ... it's the information that's important. 🐝🐝🐝
===> okay Downward facing dog 🎋 A testy little pose for beginners but once you surpass beginner level this pose will be your very best friend. Both an inversion and arm balancing pose - some of the major areas worked include the Deltoid, Latissimus Dorsi, Gluteus Maximus, Hamstrings, Gastrocnemius, Triceps, Serratus Anterior, Quadriceps. .
I cannot stress the importance of this pose for addressing/assisting overall posture and relieving stress. So many benefits and many other highlights with relation to the arm position, distance apart, direction of elbows, internal rotation of thighs and the works - all of which I will detail & help you to fine tune during class 🙃
... This upcoming month's star pose will be held on every insert for 3mins and it will be inserted plenty ... why? Because we're building, building, building ... towards 9mins in 2019:)!
Bring your loving, bring your smiles - we will have some fun focusing on this one
- All my love, see you very soon ❤️❤️❤️
This lovely image I received from one of my adorable students...
I often do the tune 🎶 "I'm a little teapot" 🎶 in class during some forward bends ... and I break into the sing-along 🙃🙃🙃 I can't help it - you'd have to be there to understand it.
It's Sooooooo very special ha ha ha. SO this is a play on that ... Awesome 👏 . .
I absolutely love it 😍so priceless - Thank You!
- Artist unknown. 😘
What on the surface you perceives as an annoyance is actually a blessing.
👀 To be thought of or chosen for any kind of sharing is truly a blessing
- without our egos we will develop the ability to recognize it - value is powerful - ELEVATE.
🦋🦋🦋 ......... XO
In a world where many are often rude, dismissive, disregarding and condescending (in order to establish & project a position of power) ===> WE can always choose to be kind.
Do it often enough and you will feel less annoyed (you will also say less of what displays your intolerance & reveals your state of annoyance) - allowing the other person access to compassion ...and as a result of this you will in turn be more happy, and more peaceful within your interactions.
When we allow compassion to be present within our interactions, dialogues and exchanges we truly listen to others. . and whenever we truly listen to others we really hear what's being said :).
kindness is contagious - don't just occasionally try it out with strangers - in fact don't try it at all, just do it... .
AND for god's sake especially give kindness to your friends 👀 👀 🤔👀 👀 (hello!)
OMG for sure if you are not sharing kindness and compassion with your "friends" you are missing all the pleasure and point of friendships. Please Don't waste your pretty, let it be in kind 🐎🐎🐎.
Negative messaging can be given to us throughout the course a of lifetime in many different forms - directly, indirectly. In bitter ways ... in sweet ways - and often we can be caught up and confused by it especially when it comes cloaked in very sweet words - but remember this anything can be dressed up or stripped down. .
OKAY you may also look at it this way - If an awful and most harmful drug is given to you in edible form inside of a sweet cupcake instead of off the tip of a syringe ... is it not still an awful and most harmful drug ? ... well yes, of course it is (!) Well the same idea applies with messaging. .
Always look to identify the types of messaging we are being fed - especially from those surrounding us ... from those, to whom we have assigned some value..
If the messaging is negative Re-evaluate, be grateful for them, lose them and EXIT ... RUN!
🏃 🏃🏃🐎🐎🐎🦋🦋🦋 ❤️❤️❤️ YOU are WORTHY - in all ways and ALWAYS !.
Ha ha ha Hey do you have some friends like that ?
Where you get their names wrong and they don't answer?
…ooh OR how about this ... where you get their Spirits wrong and they don't answer or respond? ... and you think wow where has the loving gone when realizing it wasn't love at all... the love was actually coming from YOU !
— Hey you got their spirits wrong (not always but sometimes it happens!).
It's very important to get it right --- never let that be down played --- it's the difference between the value or loss of time ... Start calling a "friend" a friend. Call another "the other".
Call someone kind, kind. Call a fake, a fake. Call someone negative, negative. Just like you'd call someone funny, funny ha ha ha - always start there and see how often the similar feeling OR name comes up =+=+=> because the truth, it NEVER lies => so always call a spade a spade ... you get it.
🙃🙃🙃 And in the meantime - Oooh can I possibly change the device remote's name to Bob?
feels so natural Bob the remote, Uh uhm, Roberto, what's the temperature today?
... and it responds: Loving, very loving ❤️❤️❤️
From me some laughter with the LIGHT and a very great day to all.
Never place the responsibility and the power of your happy -or- sad on others.
I invite you to imagine if you gave yourself that same responsibility + power for your state of mind ... for your mental condition, for your moments to take action (or to remain still), for your state of joy, happiness and gratitude.
I invite you to really imagine this ...and if you've accidentally given your responsibility and power over to another before seeing this post 😲omg oops - please please know that we have all been there.
It's a journey where occasionally we all get lost in order to find "the way" 🙃 ... From us to you, a gentle reminder of your opportunity to take that responsibility + power back to self. 🐎🐎🐎
Only you (!) will have the power (and code) to return it to self. During this Saturday's yoga class we will explore this much further in the body, mind & soul - I look forward to seeing you on the other end.
See you very soon again 🦋❤️🐻
Vinyasa = Breath focused flow for flexibility, Power = Body focused for strength building ... now that's not to say there is little or no breathing in the power yoga class :o - oh you can bet on breathing - your breathing will be called to action as we move from basic to advanced sequencing.
Thanks for the great question, keep them coming and I will answer them here or on our Instagram page. Enjoy the journey and keep up the great work.
What students are saying...
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As a novice - so many of the yoga stretches were way beyond my capacity lol - but I was given modifications, specific to my body structure and at the end of classes left feeling challenged, refreshed, enlightened and spiritually activated.
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